Preparing to be a Help Meet

(Lessons from Eve #1)
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. Genesis 2:18

When you think about getting married in the future, what comes to your mind?

 Having someone to love YOU, provide for YOU, give YOU a home...?

 

Or having someone for YOU to love and be a help and companion to?

Eve was created to be a help and companion to Adam.
A lot of wives today are not much of a help or a companion to their husbands. We are naturally so selfish and focused on ourselves and what we want. When we think about marriage, we don't necessarily think about being a help!

What are some ways you could prepare to be a helpmeet?

(Even if you never marry, these tips will still come in handy.)

 

1) Learn skills

Cooking, driving, gardening/yard work, looking after children etc.
Cooking is a big one! It's best to learn as much as possible before you are married, as once you are married meal planning becomes a big daily responsibility.
You don't want your husband to be like the newly wed guy who said, "My wife really worships me. She puts before me three burnt offerings every day!" :)

Help!!

2) Learn to keep a tidy room/house.
It's one thing to have a bedroom to keep in order, but it's another thing to have a whole house to look after. It's good to learn to keep your room clean and tidy and then it won't be so overwhelming when you have a whole house. Also, I can assure you, your husband will appreciate coming home to a clean orderly house!

3) Keep your heart for your man.
When you are married, you will have to stay faithful to your man. But if you are used to switching boyfriends regularly and flirting with anyone, how will you stay true to your man? God only has one man for you, so why not keep your heart pure until He shows you the right one?

4) Respect your father and/or any other authority in your life.
If you don't respect your father now, you probably won't respect your husband. Your father has much more experience than your future husband, so if you can't respect your father for his rules, authority and decisions, you won't respect your husband with his little experience/wisdom. Even though he isn't perfect and makes mistakes sometimes, respect him. Your husband won't be perfect either!

5) Learn to be content and thankful.
If you're not happy and fulfilled as a single woman, you won't be content as a wife either. You will not automatically become fulfilled once you are married.

Also, if you learn to be content and not covetous, you will be a big blessing to your husband as you will help save money!

6) Start praying for him.
As a wife, you'll need to pray for your husband that he will make the right decisions as he leads the family. Why not get in the habit now? All young guys need a lot of prayer! Even if you never marry, I don't believe your prayers will be wasted.

7) Make a list of all you want your husband to be, then learn to be that yourself.
It's easy to have expectations and yet not come close to meeting them ourselves. If you learn to be what you want your husband to be, you'll attract the type of husband you want.

8) Learn how guys think.
Males and females think very differently! If you learn how he thinks and what he needs, then you will be a better and happier wife!! Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus is a good book to learn how men think.

9) Study the Bible to see what God says to women.
What does the Bible say about how girls/women should live and act? What does God expect from wives? Why not find out?

Oh Be Careful Little Eyes...

...what you see

(Lessons from Potipher's Wife)

For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. 1John 2:16 

   Potiphar's wife cast her eyes upon Joseph. (Genesis 39:7) She committed adultery right then and there in her heart. Her sin began in the eye.

   This seems to be a pattern in the Bible. If these people had been blind, they would have been saved a lot of trouble!

   David--He saw Bathsheba washing herself, then he inquired after her, then he sent for her, then he committed adultery with her. (2 Samuel 11:2)

   Achan-- He saw the clothes, silver and gold, then he coveted, then he took them. (Joshua 7:21)

   Eve-- She saw the fruit was good to eat, then took it and ate it, and gave it to her husband to eat. (Genesis 3:6)

   We're affected by what we see. Or you could even say, we're infected by what we see.

   Some things we can't help seeing and then we need to stop right there and ask God for cleansing and help to be pure and right.

    But there are a lot of things we can help seeing.

     I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes:Psalm 101:3

   We can choose what movies/tv we watch, we can choose what books/magazines we read, we can choose what places we go to, we can choose what internet sites we browse.

   And if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out: it is better for thee to enter into the kingdom of God with one eye, than having two eyes to be cast into hell fire: Mark 9:47
   In another words, if what you see causes you to sin--get rid of it!

   Eyes can be a big blessing or a big stumblingblock.

   What are your eyes being used for?

     I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid? Job 31:1

Rebecca's Willingness to Work

“And when she had done giving him drink, she said, I will draw water for thy camels also, until they have done drinking. And she hasted, and emptied her pitcher into the trough, and ran again unto the well to draw water, and drew for all his camels.” Genesis 24:19-20

Rebecca was not only kind, she was very hard working. But notice she was not only hardworking, she was willing to work hard! She offered to get water for ten thirsty camels which was a major job. Some people say she had to draw up to 25 gallons of water per camel. One gallon is around three and a half litres. There were ten camels so that equals around 946 litres (if I've worked that out right. Correct me if I'm wrong!) Whew! That's a lot for a girl to get all by herself.

The virtuous woman in Proverbs 31 is described as someone who ''worketh willingly with her hands.' She's not lazy! She doesn't try to get out of work.

You may work hard and yet be bone lazy. You may work just because you have to. If you could get out of it you most certainly would.

But God created work. It's good for us to work! God didn't create us to sit on a couch bored stiff or to watch other people's lives on a screen all day. How boring!

Another Proverbs says, 'In all labour there is profit.'

Whatever you do in life you will have to work. Whether you have a job or become a wife and mother, a lot of your life will be spent working.

Abraham's servant was obviously looking for a kind, hardworking girl. Rebekah fitted the picture.

But what about you? Could you have been chosen?

What is your attitude towards work?

 

Nabal's Selfishness

It's all Mine!!

1 Samuel 25:10-11 “And Nabal answered David's servants, and said, Who is David? and who is the son of Jesse? there be many servants now a days that break away every man from his master.

Shall I then take my bread, and my water, and my flesh that I have killed for my shearers, and give it unto men, whom I know not whence they be?”

What a selfish man! In one sentence he uses the word 'my' four times. Nabal was a very rich man, yet he wouldn't share even a little of what he had.

Girls, don't ever marry a man because of how much money he has. A man's character is far more important than how rich he is. It's far better to be married to a poor man who is kind and loving, than to a rich, selfish man. Don't ever forget that!